How did you decide to be a stay at home mom?@Anonymous
I hate working. That’s really the crux of it. I have never had a successful time in a work place (I have terrible work-ethic, appalling loyalty to any company or corporate ideal, and frankly most people cannot PAY me enough to sit through their tedious, dreary, despicable little “important” jobs)
I’m 30 (in about ten days), and the longest I’ve held down a job is 6 months (and OH GOD it was awful).
So, my husband and I, doing that open communication thing that people are always raving about, discussed our priorities and where they lay and whatnot. We wanted a family young, he was content to follow a career (more content than me, anyway) and I was happy (delighted, thrilled, ecstatic) to stay at home, looking after the kid/house/stuff/minutiae/administration that comes with running a household.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not a domestic goddess (the idea is bloody laughable.) I clean when I can be bothered, and my cooking is passable but far from divine. I spend far too much time either in my head or writing fanfic, and my mantra is sadly “I can’t be bothered.” but I try.
However, the thing is I’m there when the roof falls in. I’m there when the appliances break and flood the ktichen. I’m there when my neighbour’s cat gets hit by a car and my neighbour sobs like she’s going to be sick, I’m there when my husband falls off his bike on the way to work and has to go to hospital. I’m there when my kid’s sick and has to be brought home from school.
Don’t get me wrong. It doesn’t make me a better wife/mum/whatever. We just decided it mattered to us for there to always be someone who could be relied upon to keep things running relatively smoothly, and set about making it happen. I quit work one month after I was married (and coincidentally pregnant and Oh so very unwell with morning sickness.) and never looked back.
I’m glad we were able to make the sacrifices, financially speaking, for it to be possible. It’s not that I lack ambition, as I have often been accused. It’s that my ambitions do not align with what is considered socially acceptable.
Being socially acceptable is boring anyway, right?